Wedding planning can be so stressful. Everywhere you look there are checklists, websites, blog posts, etc telling you what you need to do for your wedding. And as if the process isn’t stressful enough, they aren’t all true. Scratch that. TONS of them aren’t true. There are so many wedding planning myths out there that it’s time to forget about. Brides are particularly susceptible to media and advertising. We see something and immediately think it has to be a part of our wedding day. We see something pretty and we buy it. We hear a myth and we believe it. Today I’m debunking a few of those wedding planning myths for you.
1. A bride has to wear a white dress.
You definitely don’t! Weddings and wedding traditions are changing a lot, and this is one of those traditions you see people moving away from. It is becoming especially popular to wear dresses in ivory, blush, champagne, etc. If you want to go even crazier and wear a totally different color, go for it! While we’re at it, you also don’t have to have something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue to have a successful wedding day.
2. DIY is always cheaper.
No, it’s definitely not always cheaper! I could have spent a lot more money on wedding decor had I followed this mentality. There were some things that were just cheaper to buy. If you’re starting a wedding DIY project, make a list of all the materials you’ll need and the cost of each item. Then look around online and compare the total cost to what the item sells for as a finished product. You might be surprised at what items it’s better to buy than make.
3. It’s your day, so it’s all about you.
Yes, it is your wedding day. Yes, the purpose of the event is all about you and your fiance. But as soon as you choose to invite guests, it becomes at least a little about them. Make sure you’re making an effort to make your guests comfortable. At least when it comes to the simple things like providing good food, providing comfortable seating, inviting people with their significant other, sending thank you cards, etc.
4. If they invited you to their wedding, you have to invite them to yours.
Not all friends are for life. Sometimes people are only in your life for awhile, and that’s okay. You might have been great friends with someone when they got married. That’s great. But now, five years later, maybe you aren’t friends anymore. It’s okay to leave them off the list. I had a coworker in college who was also a good friend. Dave and I went to her wedding and had a blast. But I also haven’t talked to her since college, so we didn’t invite her to our wedding. I doubt she had hurt feelings about it.
5. Wedding planners are too expensive.
This isn’t always the case! Sometimes wedding planners are able to find and get deals that the average couple can’t. You might end up saving money by hiring a wedding planner! A good wedding planner will make themselves worth the cost. And if you don’t hire a planner, you’ll at least want a day-of coordinator. Trust me, having them there that day will be a lifesaver!
6. You only get married once, so price be damned.
If you have endless amounts of money to spend on your money, congratulations. That’s super. But I’m guessing most people reading this aren’t in that boat. I’m guessing you have a set amount of money in the bank, and a budget that stresses you out more and more the closer you get to the wedding. I hear so many people imply that a wedding only happens once and it’s the best day of your life, so you can spend whatever. Take out a loan. Take out credit cards. Use all your savings. Don’t do this! All those expensive things that you didn’t really need might seem awesome at the time, but they won’t be when you’re still paying them off 5 years later.
What are some myths you discovered when planning your wedding?
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