Wedding planning is already stressful and sometimes, as much as we love them, our guests can make it even more stressful. Before getting engaged, I hadn’t been to many weddings. And looking back, I definitely made a couple of the wedding guest mistakes listed in this post. Wedding guest etiquette was a mystery to me. Because sometimes you just don’t realize how frustrating these things are until you’ve experienced them from the bride and groom’s point of view! So today I’m sharing just a few things you should and shouldn’t do when you’re a guest at a wedding.
…RSVP on time. I can’t even tell you how frustrating it is to track down guests who didn’t RSVP. The RSVP date is right on the invitation, and we’ve already stamped it for you! It’s not that difficult to fill it out and send it back!
…arrive on time. Don’t be that person that walks in as the bride and groom are saying their vows!
…leave the bride alone. Just assume that you can’t talk to her before the wedding, unless you’re family or wedding party. Don’t try to pop into the bridal suite to say hi while she’s getting ready, unless you were invited. Don’t call her that morning with questions about parking or your outfit. Whatever the question is, there is at least one other person who can answer it. The bride has enough to worry about that day!
…wear white. I feel like everyone knows this one, but I figured I’d throw it in anyways! Honestly, the bride is probably going to be too busy to notice. I didn’t know what anyone (besides the wedding party) wore to our wedding until I saw the pictures. But seriously, just don’t do it. The bride might not notice, but the other guests will probably judge you. And I’m not talking any white. If your dress has some white on it, that’s cool. But avoid the all-white dresses. Especially if they’re floor-length.
…add extra people to the invitation. If your kids aren’t listed on the invite (or it doesn’t say “and family”), assume they aren’t invited. If the invitation includes only your name and doesn’t say “and guest”, don’t show up with a date. People do this intentionally when they make their guest list. Yes, it might be a bummer for you that you can’t bring your kids or a date to every wedding. But sometimes the venue and/or the couple’s budget just doesn’t allow it. Be respectful.
…get in the photographers way. Chances are the couple has paid a lot of money for the photographer. By standing in the aisle to get a picture of the first kiss, you’re only getting in the photographer’s way. The bride and groom will likely be happy to share those photos with the guests afterward, and your picture probably won’t turn out better than the photographers.
What wedding guest dos and don’ts would you add to this list?
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