Marriage is hard. That’s what they’re always telling us, right? And it’s true, marriage is hard. Granted, Dave and I have been lucky enough to not have any major stressors to deal with, for the most part. Once we got past planning the wedding, it’s been pretty smooth sailing. We’re in the process of buying a house, but that hasn’t been all that stressful either. I know we haven’t hit the hardest part yet. And still, marriage is hard. But that’s not my biggest takeaway from marriage so far. My biggest takeaway? Marriage is fun. It’s full of laughter, adventure, dreaming, and planning. Keep fun at the center of our marriage has been a priority for Dave and I, and I think it’s been a big contributing factor to making the first year of marriage sail smoothly thus far. Let’s talk about some ways to keep fun at the center of your marriage, as well as why you should.
Why to Keep Fun at the Center of Your Marriage
Starting a new relationship is amazing. As is getting engaged, and becoming a newlywed. It’s new, it’s exciting, it’s challenging. But that new feeling isn’t there forever. And when it leaves, you don’t want the excitement in your marriage to go with it. After 8-9 hours at work every day, I’m so excited to go home and see Dave. And I still want to feel that way in 10 years. Keeping fun at the center of our marriage has helped us to grow closer in our marriage and keep that feeling of excitement alive.
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I think keeping fun at the center of our marriage has also helped us to better handle some of the difficulties of marriage. We’ve learned how to talk to one another, and what it takes to make the other smile when they’re having a bad day. We’ve learned to talk about the difficult issues, and we’ve also learned to recognize when it’s time to temporarily set them aside and focus on joy.
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How to Keep Fun at the Center of Your Marriage
Find Mutual Hobbies – So, I firmly believe couples need to have separate hobbies. I’ll write a post about that sometime. But I also firmly believe you should have hobbies together! Dave isn’t just my husband to share the housework and monthly bills with. He’s also my best friend, and I love hanging out with him. So naturally, we’re always looking for more ways to do that. It might be sports, volunteering, video games, etc.
Keep Date Night Alive – Dave and I have been in serious savings mode for the past three years. First, it was two years of saving for a wedding, and then another year of saving for a house. So date nights have been limited. But hey, he just told me that tomorrow he’s taking me on a date, and I couldn’t be more excited! Date nights give you the opportunity to connect without your usual stressors around. Sure, you could have a date night at home. But the sight of the dirty dishes and that pile of laundry aren’t nearly as romantic as the complete relaxation of a fun night out.
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Tell Jokes. Be Silly. Laugh – This may not be how we approach every aspect of our marriage, but it’s absolutely a cornerstone of it. You don’t have to be on a date or doing an activity together to have fun together. Incorporate laughter and jokes into your daily life, and I promise you’ll feel lighter and even more in love.
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How do you and your spouse keep fun at the center of your marriage?
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