Wedding planning can be stressful. Any woman who has planned a wedding can tell you that no truer words have ever been spoken. It’s an amazing experience. It can be fun. It can be special to share it with your fiance, your mom, or your bridesmaids. And it can also cause you to cry and throw things and contemplate calling off the wedding. All of the above. I know wedding planning takes a lot of energy, but it’s also important to devote some time to your mental health and relieving the stress that planning your wedding has caused you. Here are some tips for how to reduce stress while wedding planning
Stay connected with your fiance.
This one is probably the most important! When you’re in the thick of wedding planning, it’s so easy to lose sight of why you’re doing it. It’s also easy to let every conversation become dominated by wedding planning. It’s important to spend time with your future spouse and connect over things that have nothing to do with wedding planning! When I got stressed about planning, Dave was always able to calm me down just by being there for me. Remember that you’re not only preparing for a wedding, but for a marriage. Make sure give that part some attention too.
Take care of your health.
I can’t even emphasize this enough! And this doesn’t just include physical health. This includes diet, fitness, and mental health. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep. Make sure you’re not taking on too much at once. And if you’re doing a special diet and fitness routine for the wedding, make sure it’s actually beneficial. Don’t push yourself too hard or go on too rigid a diet when you already have enough to be stressed about.
Take up yoga or meditation.
It might be something you’ve never tried before, but it can be seriously beneficial. This will give you the opportunity to clear you mind, not to mention the physical benefits. If nothing else, it will give you a break from wedding planning for an hour!
Set ground rules.
So much of the stress of wedding planning comes from your families. To battle this, I suggest setting ground rules from Day 1. One ground rule I suggest is that you deal personally with any conflict with your family and your fiance deal personally with any conflict from his/her family. That way no one is going head to head with their in-laws from the get-go. Setting ground rules for who gets a say in wedding decisions. You and your fiance need to make a decision ahead of time to back each other up when someone else jumps in with their opinion. Make it clear to family that the only opinions that count are you and your fiance.
Declare certain times off limits for wedding planning. If you’re having a long engagement, you could even do this for weeks at a time! I especially recommend setting date nights as wedding-free nights. Just take a night off to enjoy each other as you are now!
Don’t be afraid to delegate.
Planning a wedding is a huge undertaking. It’s okay to ask for help. The people that love you (your mom, bridesmaids, etc), will be happy to help if you ask. They want to be included! You can also delegate to your fiance. Don’t feel like you have to do every single thing yourself.
How do/did you de-stress during wedding planning?
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