When you’ve been married to someone or dating them for a significant amount of time, your marriage might start to lose some of that spark. It certainly doesn’t mean you love each other any less, but it might mean that your marriage needs a bit of a reboot. One of the best ways to do that is by dating your spouse. Remember when you first started dating and you dressed up, went on real dates, made genuine effort into not doing anything gross or embarrassing, etc? Yeah, it’s all coming back to you now, right? Seriously, just because you’re married or have been together for years doesn’t mean that has to go away! Yes, sweatpants and Netflix are great. But that definitely aren’t greater than the spark between you and your spouse. To help keep the spark alive, here are some ideas for how, and why, to keep dating your spouse!
Why to Keep Dating Your Spouse
After being together for years, it’s easy to fall into a comfortable and complacent routine. You spend so much time together, that time might start to seem less special, and start taking it for granted. But dating can take you out of your normal surroundings. You’ll be reminded of why you enjoyed dating them so much in the first place, and being in new places and experiencing new things will give you plenty of new topics to talk about! And unlike the sort-of conversation you have while still watching Netflix or your phone, your spouse will have your full attention. Hopefully starting this habit early can prevent a rut you might otherwise fall into! Literally the last thing you want is for the person sharing your bed to turn into more of a roommate or busines partner than a romantic partner. So let’s make sure that doesn’t happen!
How to Keep Dating Your Spouse
Keep your spouse as #1. I know that your spouse IS your #1 priority, but make sure to show them that! Other things get in the way like kids, jobs, blogging (ahem, Erin), etc. Make sure that those things don’t overshadow your spouse.
Have a weekly date night. It doesn’t have to be the same night every week, and it definitely doesn’t have to be a traditional dinner-and-a-movie date. Just make sure one night per week, the two of you get out of the house, away from Netflix/video games/social media, and doing something different just the two of you!
Compliment each other. Remember when you first started dating and you laughed at his jokes and complimented his appearance? Just because you’ve been together for years doesn’t make it any less important for you both to continue complimenting each other! Just as importantly, let him compliment you!
Try something new. Getting yourself out of your comfort zone is a great way to bring a spark back into your marriage! Some suggestions would be to go hiking together or take a class together.
Dress up. When you go out together, try to impress one another. Trade in the sweatpants and ponytail for a dress and some makeup! Not saying you have to be like this all the time at home, but try to make the effort when you’re having a date night.
Cook a romantic dinner for your spouse. Don’t make it like every other dinner the two of you have at home together. Set the real table. Dress up. Put out some candles and pull out a bottle of wine.
Flirt with each other. C’mon, I know you still remember how to do this! I still (sort of?) do. Whether it be in person or sending each other flirty texts throughout the day, just keep the magic alive.
Keep the bedroom a sacred space. Don’t make your bedroom the place where you fight and stress. Leave the negativity outside the bedroom to leave room for things that are more…fun.
Those are all I’ve got for you today, but I’m considering turning this into a recurring series! In the future, I’ll plan to share some more specific ideas for how to date your spouse!
What ways do you continue dating your spouse (or significant other)?
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