Wedding planning can be a huge hassle. There are so many decisions to make and “rules” to follow. While each couple has the chance to make their wedding unique, there are many traditions that set the tone. While some traditions are awesome and definitely worth keeping with, more and more of them are being left to the wayside by couples planning their wedding. Dave and skipped many of the “traditions” in favor of alternatives that suited our wedding better. Here are 7 wedding traditions you can skip for your own wedding (though you certainly don’t have to!).
1. Wearing a white wedding dress.
Most brides still choose something close to white. Ivory, blush, champagne, etc are becoming more popular choices. I ended up choosing ivory because I didn’t feel like a harsh white looked great with my skin tone.
2. Not seeing the groom until you’re walking down the aisle.
Many couples are ditching this tradition and instead doing a first look. Including Dave and I! While we originally thought we wanted to wait until the ceremony, we changed our minds at the last minute. And I’m so glad we did! Not only was it nice to have that moment just the two of us, it also calmed my nerves so much. After our first look, I wasn’t worried about anything else. I had been stressing about the weather all day, but afterward I wasn’t bothered by the fact that it was raining on what was supposed to be an outside ceremony. Many couples stick with tradition on this one, but it’s definitely something to think about.
3. The bouquet and garter toss.
I thought long and hard during our engagement as to whether or not we’d want to have a bouquet and garter toss. I went back and forth, but ultimately decided to skip them. First of all, Dave and I don’t have a lot of single friends in our life. It can be uncomfortable to be singled out at a wedding for not having a significant other! I also didn’t want to interrupt the dancing mid-reception when I knew everyone would be having a blast on the dance floor.
4. Matching bridesmaid dresses.
I had matching bridesmaids dresses at my wedding, but it’s a tradition you can certainly skip. More and more brides and choosing a color and fabric and letting the bridesmaids choose their own dresses. It’s a great alternative that allows each bridesmaid to show off their individuality while still matching the wedding colors.
5. The brides family footing the bill.
Traditionally the bride’s family pays for the reception, while the groom’s family pays for the rehearsal dinner and a few odds and ends. This is definitely a requirement that needs to go. If the bride’s family wants to foot the bill, great. But it shouldn’t be an expectation.
6. A tiered wedding cake.
Tiered wedding cakes can be super expensive. They can be beautiful, but is it worth the cost? It’s becoming more popular for couples to have a small cake to cut and then a sheet cake to serve. If it’s just a delicious, it might be worth saving the cost.
7. The receiving line.
I’m not a huge fan of receiving lines, and they’re even less ideal for large weddings. Standing in a long line with 200 other guests can be a long process and it might cut into your picture taking time by 30-45 minutes. An alternative option is the bride and groom visiting each table during dinner and the reception. Dave and I stopped by each table and were table to visit with each of our guests. We also made an effort to visit or dance with everyone during the reception!
Which wedding traditions are you skipping and with are you sticking with?
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