I’m going to be honest. When I sat down to think of mistakes I made while planning my wedding, I couldn’t think of a whole lot. So I guess that’s a good sign, right? Most of the smaller details I thought I would care about, I literally didn’t even notice on the day of. Dave and I had an amazing wedding, and I definitely wouldn’t choose to redo it if I had the chance. That being said, there are a few mistakes I made while planning my wedding. Today I’m going to share them with you in the hopes that you don’t make the same mistakes!
We chose a venue before we finalized our guest list.
This mistake ended up costing us some money! When we initially created our guest list, we had 150 people on it. So we chose a venue space that held 150. And then had many more additions we ended up having to make to our guest list. In the end only 130 came, but we ended up inviting nearly 250! I actually don’t regret that we had to change our space, as the tent we ended up with was beautiful, and we were able to stay at the same resort. But it definitely threw off our budget, since we created the rest of our budget with our venue cost in mind. Moral of the story? Make sure to consult your parents about the guest list before booking a venue, because that could make a huge difference in your guest list!
We didn’t hire a videographer.
I heard so many people say throughout the wedding planning process that we should hire a videographer. I disagreed for a couple of reasons. First of all, while pictures are displayed throughout the home and you probably see them often, I’m guessing most people don’t regularly take out their wedding video to watch. It just didn’t seem as practical as a great photographer (which I still believe). We also were pretty sure we could do our own video. We have a decent camera that takes video and thought it would be simple enough to set it up and get a video.
Not so much, it turns out. First of all, it ended up being a rainy day the day of our wedding. So I wasn’t about to put my expensive camera out in the rain. Then, we had to change the ceremony space because of the rain. In the shuffle, the camera never did end up getting set up. On top of that, we almost LOST it when a member of the wedding party left it in the lobby of the resort. So yeah, that didn’t work out so well.
It really would have been nice to have that video. The day went so far, I hardly remember the ceremony. I wish we had a video to remember it by.
We went over our budget.
To be fair, the budget we initially set ourselves just wasn’t realistic. We hadn’t really dove into the planning, so we didn’t have a good idea what anything would cost. It just wouldn’t have been feasible. But we did end up going way over that budget. Now that we’re struggling to come up with a down payment for a home, I wish we had reigned it in and saved more of that money for our marriage.
We didn’t talk to everyone.
I’m definitely not beating myself up over this one because we did make a genuine effort. We stopped at each table during dinner to talk to guests. Unfortunately, there were a few people missing from their tables when we stopped by. In the weeks after the wedding, I found myself thinking, “Dang, I didn’t talk to____!”
We didn’t give ourselves a break before the honeymoon.
We thought we had the perfect plan. We would leave the afternoon after the wedding. Sure we would be tired, but we would sleep on the overnight flight. Then we would fly home on a Friday morning so we would have all weekend to recover, do laundry, open wedding gifts, etc. Sounds great, right? Well, that wasn’t exactly how it went.
Our flight got changed from the afternoon after the wedding to the morning after the wedding. So we had to get up super early, rush home and make it to the airport just in time. And of course, we didn’t sleep much on the overnight flight because planes are NOT comfortable! And Dave has the longest legs ever, meaning he was completely squished. So we were exhausted our first day in Ireland and had to stop mid-afternoon for a nap.
The flight home wasn’t so great either. The flights ended up being delayed a bit, meaning we got home Friday evening instead of midday like we planned. And I promptly fell asleep at 7 pm and slept for 12+ hours. And we were still exhausted all day Saturday and Sunday. And not all of the laundry got done. And our apartment was a mess for at least a week. Why did we think we would be all gung-ho to clean after two weeks of international travel? I have no idea. But we definitely weren’t. In retrospect, I wish we had given ourselves an extra day between the wedding and the honeymoon.
Like I said, I literally can’t think of anything else on our wedding day that could have gone differently. It was hands down the best day of my life. And I sincerely hope you feel the same about your wedding day!
What wedding planning mistakes did you make?
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